In the name of Allah

Last Saturday, it was Delhi's turn. We all witnessed an act of shear frustration and coward ness. And that too in the name of "Almighty God". As the e-mail sent to various news channels suggest. These so called "Jihad's" or warriors for religion profess themselves as real Muslims and they attack Delhi because its capital of a "Hindutva" country India. All Delhites, specially people living in Karol Bagh and CP and GK, belong to VHP and Bajrang dal and these Freedom fighters wanted to take revenge from them

Now coming to the victims. A family of poor people from Haryana, lost all their bread winners. These poor people were selling old cloths used for cleaning engines in Auto Market in Karol bagh. Another poor guy, who was studying Chartered Accountant, from remote city in UP. He lost his one eye. Another poor rickshaw puller Kasim and Farooq, both lost their lives. He has left Kashmir, because of the violence to live(or die) peacefully in Delhi.

I ask this question to all the Jihads and people having sympathy to their cause. What these innocent people has done to them or their religion. None of them have ant relation to VHP or Bajrang Dal. All of them were serving all religions with equal pride and affection. Then why they?

Just because they are easy prays. These cowards jihads, who boast themselves in name of Allah, don't have even that much guts to face the real culprits. I would have no complaints if they have targeted Narendra Modi or Pravin Togadia or Babu Bajrangi. But these so called jihads are such kind of criminals, I don't know how they face themselves in mirror leave aside facing Allah. Its something like, some Pehalwan hit you hard. You were helpless. Out of sheer frustration, you get hold of next weak person and start getting your frustration out on him. And over that claim that you doing it for religion and Allah. Will Allah boast such acts of cowardice. Even in Koran, which came on earth in this holy month of Ramdhan, its strictly mentioned, Don't kill children and women. Fight when you are attacked.

If these so called Jihads or Indian Mujahidins, for me they are un-organized criminals who are psychologically disturbed. They have some grudges and frustrations and they are taking it out by planting bombs on innocent people, places sneakily. Warriors don't act in hideouts or nights. They have guts to challenge enemy and face them. I spit on the face of these worms, cynical people, someone like that psycho killer who kills innocent people in darkness of night, without any fault of victims. He kills just because he is mentally sick. He enjoys it.

I request all of my friends, enemies, family, non family to take good care of themselves. Keep an open eye and foil any bid by such criminals to disturb peace of our country. For such un-organized criminals, police cant reach everywhere. Its we as citizens has to help ourselves.

Is it a luxary or bondage?

कभी एक छोटे बच्चे को देखा है? कुछ दिन पहले ही हमारे घर एक नया मेहमान आया है। मेरी बहिन को एक छोटा सा प्यारा सा शिशु हुआ है। देखने में भोला भला निरीह सा दिखने वाला... पिछले २-३ दिनों से देख रहा हूँ..कितने मजे में रह रहा है। न खाने ली चिंता ना नित्य क्रिया के लिए परेशानी। जब मन किया सो गए जब मन किया उठ गए। भूख लगी तो रोना शुरू और कोई न कोई दूध पिला देगा...माँ नही तो मामी नही तो नानी। अगर नित्य क्रिया करनी है तो बस कर दी और रोना शुरू। कोई तो साफ़ कर ही देगा॥ कितने मजे हैं..क्या ऐयाशी है देख कर कभी जलन होती है।



फ़िर ये सोचता हूँ की उस शिशु की क्या अपनी कोई इक्षा है? वो तो एक खिलोने की तरह है। जिसका मन आया उसे गोदी में उठा लिया..कभी खिलाया कभी जगा दिया कभी सुला दिया। कभी किसी और को गोद में दे दिया कभी कपड़े से अच्छे से लपेट दिया की सर्दी न लग जाए। इतनी सुविधा में रखते है उसे पर क्या उसकी कोई मर्जी है? वो तो पराधीन है। वो एक हिन्दी की कविता थी ना॥ "पराधीन सपनेहु सुख नही" तो क्या उसे सपने में भी सुख नही है? फ़िर उसे देख कर जो जलन हो रही है उसका क्या?



क्या हमारी जिन्दगी भी ऐसी ही नही है? जो हमारे पास नही होता उसे देख कर हम जलते रहते है पर उस वस्तू को प्राप्त करने के पीछे जो वेदना है, जिन परिस्तिथ्यो से वो गुजरा है जो बलिदान उसने दिए हैं..वो हमें कभी नही दीखते है। ऊपर की मलाई तो दिखती है पर उस मलाई को दूध से निकलने के लिए उसे कितना खोलाना पड़ा उसका क्या? अगर उस कीमत पे हमें वो सुविधाए चाहिए तो फ़िर क्या बात है?

Marriages: Made in heaven, celeberated in India

So much is said about Fat Indian Weddings. One more wedding of mine to add. I got married on 25th of Nov 2007 and as usual, a lot of money was spend on decoration, tents, travel, catering. I keep on asking this question to myself..cant we do away with such a huge investment? Is it really a necessity to do so much or just a way of flaunting your economic status. Richer you are, more you spend.
Though it was a love-cum-arrange marriage, with so many Egos' crushed and crumbled, still the money spent on all the proceedings from my side and her side was huge enough to support a middle class family for 1 to 2 years with their monthly needs. I am not talking about expenses on cloths or ornaments or honeymoon as they are with you, but the expenses related to Band, Decorated Car, Grand reception of wedding, lights, camera person etc.
With camera person, I want to ask you people reading this, is there any spring in market which fits in your jaw and you always keep on smiling so that camera person can click your picture for infinite number of times. They say that its one time effort for life long memories, but with advent of these digital cameras where there are no limits for taking picture, especially wedding photographers irritate you so much that if you run all the still images taken by them, you will see a running movie.
What I like about our Desi weddings is the family ties which comes to surface. Though our lives becoming so fast we have very less time, but still our generation and last generation is trying to retain the traditions. Probably the kind of fun whole extended family does at a single place is only the marriages and few days before/after that. In my wedding I saw my mama jee dancing with us, whom we always saw in serious mood.
Obviously, a change cant be done by a single individual due to social fabric of India where each of us looks towards other and peer pressure is huge. The efforts like Delhi Sikh Committee banning night weddings and extravagent weddings are surely welcome. Unfortunately Hindus don't have a single body making social laws so some civil law from Govt might help in curbing such un-wanted and un-necessary expenses.

Casteism: Does it still exists in our generation

This is frankly a shocking thing happened to me last week. I was chatting on a site when I met a girl. She was from Noida itself and pursuing her MBA from some Gaziabad college. After usual stuff of introduction, she asked me whats your full name. I asked directly, "Do you want to know my caste?" She didnt reply. Then I said "I am ambedkar". For those who dont know ambedkars are un-touch ables who used to do dirty jobs of collecting garbage's etc in last decades. Now she replied "Bye". I was so surprised. This was first case of Caste ism happened to me on a virtual world. I asked her, "So if I am an un-touchable, you will not even chat to me on a virtual site leave alone sitting with me in class? What kind of thinking you have?" Now she came in defensive mode saying " I hate mayawati and her policies so I hate ambedkars." Which is just a nonsense excuse. Then I took a leave from her and logged out.
But that made me think about the deep roots of this caste ism in us. What if she after doing her MBA joins a company as HR executive who plays key role in selection of candidates. With this mindset, she will never appreciate the potential of a candidate if he/she belongs to some lower caste. If a young girl of our generation has such thought process, what about our last generation where such thoughts were so much deep rooted. People with such hatred and paranoid about schedule castes, that too in most of higher positions of power and selection, will never allow any candidate to enter though he/she is capable for that.
Doesnt this justifies RESERVATIONS. If we, at upper castes, are being un fair to them because of our inherent thoughts, why not they should use some unfair means like RESERVATIONS to reach equal to us? What do you guys say..

How to know when your daughter is falling in a relation?

Hi guys!
Again I am back with a thought. As I have been in a relation and was able to fool the parents for so many years ;-). Now when I am finally marrying the same girl so I thought why not give some tips to the parents. So they can relate more to their child? Why not have a cordial relation with your son or daughter? Obviously we in india are not so open that a girl or boy will tell her/his parents about her relation frankly. The initiative should be from parents side only. So here are some tips for them when they know about it. Please post replys to add some more.

1. When ur daughter starts coming late frequently unreasonably.
2. When suddenly she starts demanding more money than usual.
3. When all of a sudden she starts taking interest in fashion and dressing sense.
4. When she start talking on phone for hrs n says she's talking to her fren regarding studies.

This happens also in Italy!!

This is my 3rd trip to Italy. But it happened first time. Though I have seen many people playing some instruments in Metro in my last trip and collecting money, but this was one of its own type. Yes, you must have met people on traffic lights in Delhi, asking you some help as someone has pick-pocket them. They need to go to their home and ask a small amount let say 10 Rs. This time something similar happened to me in Milan.
I was sitting on the stairs of this famous church Duamo on one Sunday afternoon with one of my friend. Suddenly a guy came and said something to me in Italian. I said "Non capito" which means I don't understand in Italian. He then spoke in English, Do you understand English? I said yes. Then he said, "I am in big trouble someone has pick-pocket him and he needs to call his friend urgently, so can I lend him some money?" I said "how much" "may be couple of Euros" he replied. This guy was looking more of a European but his English was fluent. I was about to give him 1 Euro, suddenly I thought. I have purchased a new Italian Sim card with a very cheap plan in which I can call anywhere in world at 15 cents. I thought may be I can help him by allowing him to make a call from my mobile. I said, "where does your friend live?" Now he was not prepared for this. He said hesitantly "Africa". I said "Ok, you can call your friend using my mobile" "No, no its my personal no. How can I show it to you? You give me money I will call from Public Booth" I said " Ok you can delete the no after u call" Now He was not in good mood. He said angrily "you don't want to give me money" "No" "Ok Fine" and he left. By now I have remembered all such incidents that have happened with me and my friends in India(also shown in movie traffic signal).So both of yes started laughing and said "This happens also in Italy"